Thursday, October 9, 2014

To Be, Or Not To Be



To be, or not to be hairy is not the question I was asking yesterday.  I was however, trying to make a statement about being happy with the bodies we have and being content with nature.  Just because someone, such as JiEL said in the comments, being naturally hairless is "not less manly."  Running my hands over a smooth chest is just as luxurious to me as a hairy one.  I remember a particular dancer at a gay bar in Houston that was shaved, but was letting his hair grow to a stubble.  I remember being incredibly turned on by that "sandpaper sensation."  The tactile sensation of hairy, hairless, or somewhere in between does not, however, mean that there is not a aesthetic pleasure to seeing a man in all his natural beauty, hairless or not.  

Of course, all of this is a matter of personal taste, and when it comes down to it, I completely agree with Damien, who wrote "So I guess I mostly like the person beneath the skin, the skin beneath the hair, the hair beneath the shirt."  I also agree with Bodhisbuddy who said that his tastes have changed.  As a preteen through early twenties, I too preferred as little body hair as possible on a man. As I grew older, I began to appreciate well groomed bodies with hair, and now I'm to the point where hairless looks much less appealing.  Though my tastes do occasionally change, I rarely look for the very hairy.  It just doesn't appeal to me that much.

I also agree with Damien that Nick Jonas is getting too much attention over these photos.  Me personally,  I find his ass the most appealing thing about him, then again, I'm an ass man, so that kind of figures I'd find his attractive.  It's a nice round bubble butt.  

I also agree that there is a double standard when it comes to male and female celebrities, especially those who were child stars/wholesome Disney personalities.  However, and I may be adding to this double standard, but I believe that Miley Cyrus and Nick Jonas took two different paths when they decided to break away from their squeaky clean personas.  Miley appeared to eschew all the values that she previously seemed to embrace.  Nick Jonas may be making racier photos (and not all people, were upset over Miley's racy behavior) and he may have taken off his purity ring, but he still seems to have kept some core values.  "This is a real growth in me and not something [wearing a purity ring] I'm doing anymore. But I've got my set of values, things that are important to me now at this point in my life and that's all that matters," said Jonas in a recent interview.  "I've had an incredibly intense journey with faith and religion and my own growth. My belief in God is still very strong and important to me as a person and I think that's all that should matter," he continued. "I grew up in a church environment and still have love for the church."

So i think the photos and the publicity have brought to light a few interesting things about our culture.  I do believe that the lack of outcry is a reflection of the sexism still prevalent in our society. As Damien out it "Boys will be boys but girls should be ladies!"  Also, the little bit of hair he shows in the mildly revealing photographs has at least raised the question of manscaping or not.  I honestly think it makes for some interesting conversations, though not many are talking about it in those terms.

Thank you all for your comments.  I don't often answer comments directly, but know that I read every one of them.  Please keep commenting and keep the conversation going.

3 comments:

Michael Dodd said...

I find it interesting when bloggers comment on comments. Maybe it is just that I like listening in on other people's conversations ...

JiEL said...

Thank you for reacting to our comments and, as Michael Dodd, I like it too...

The word «BLOG» means to me that there would have some kind of answer from the bloggers.

To react again, I also see the man behind his skin and hair...
To me, hairy or not, the main way a man attract me after the first sight is the way he thinks and act.

Having an honest and truthful personality are important and most of all, be yourself not pretending to be bigger than you really are.

Hard to express my thoughts in English here. Hope you understand my idea.

Hairy is natural for most of men...
So remain as you are: NATURAL!

Manscaping can be nice too IF it's not to radical...

**I'm opening another debate which is : CUT or UNCUT ?

I know that for many it never been THEIR choice. Too bad because I think, as hair, men should have the choice to keep their penises UNCUT or, in age to decide, have it CUT...

Personnaly, I'm UNCUT and UNCUT men are more appealing for me.
BUT, I can be also attracted to a CUT man IF his penis isn't too much «badly damaged»...

So, if hairy is men natural look, why CUT a penis against the men's will... ???

I know that there are also some religious and (so call) health issues in some countries...

The question is somewhat important to debate too...

Best regards.

EthanJM said...

Loved yesterday's and today's posts. Couple of thoughts. I'm a fickle boy, but one thing is for certain. I love men and their bodies. Some features turn me on more or less but I agree whole-heartedly that what's beneath the surface is the most important and can either make one more attractive or much less. Celebs are an interesting breed. I don't expect them to be perfect, they all screw up just like the rest of us. And like anyone else I think more of them when they are honest about themselves and own up to their mistakes. Forgiveness is easy if it's asked for or it should be. Are celebs obligated to be role models because of their fame? Hell no. We are a society of hypocrits and double standards. We hold other people to higher standards than ourselves. We feel superior when we judge others and tear them down for being different or imperfect. I think we all know right from wrong. But no one is perfect. We need to accept people's failures and bad decisions as their problems and spend more time being role models ourselves than expecting others to do it for us. Love and treat others how you want to be loved and treated. Emulate those who do it better than you. Ignore those who don't. Sorry for the rant. Coming full circle, Be yourself and find someone who is right for you, who you love despite all their imperfections but see their true worth inside.