Thursday, September 3, 2015

Goodbye, Jay



In the early morning hours yesterday, Tray Murphy, who we all knew as Jay on this blog, took his own life.  Jay had felt that the problems he was facing were insurmountable. I will not elaborate because I don't think it's fair to Jay, but I will never believe that the cause of his problems were real.  That being said, I know it caused major problems in Jay's life.  Problems he could not deal with.  It broke my heart, and I have shed many tears since I heard the news.  

I have known Jay since the beginning of this blog.  For over five years, he commented almost everyday.  He even commented on the poetry, which few people ever do.  Jay was not only a blog reader but a true friend.  I always knew that if I found myself in Virginia, I had a place to stay, and I had a friend who'd welcome me with open arms.  Jay was kind and loving.  He always had a kind word and was always supportive.

Jay felt at the end that even God had deserted him.  I tried to make him understand that God never deserts us.  I just pray that God will help his family get through this tragedy.

Though Jay won't be able to read this, he would want to know that we loved him, cared about him, and he will be missed so very much.

Goodbye, Jay.  We love you.  We will always miss you.

Peace <3
Joe

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wow. I'm so sorry to hear this.

Susan said...

He will be missed, Joe. It is always so very sad to lose someone you have considered a friend.

Michael Dodd said...

When I read Jay's post yesterday, I hoped I was misunderstanding. I was saddened to discover I had understood all too well.

May all those who find life a burden be blessed with friends who will help them find their way. May all of us become such friends to one another.

Eternal rest grant to him, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his spirit and the spirits of all the departed through the surpassing power of Merciful Love rest in peace.

Amanda said...

He was a friend to me as well as others. I hope he finds peace he will be missed. I don't know what to say. I'm still in shock. Thank you for the post and kind words. RIP Jay

Roger said...

Very Well Written \o/

mistress maddie said...

While I never met him I did read his blog from time to time. Out blog circles had just started crossing. Very shocking news. He always seemed so full of life.

Andrew Weiss said...

I wish I could have gotten to know Jay and could have said or done something to make him feel better. I sense that perhaps ageism and overweightism in the gay community contributed to the situation and I wish he could have found someone in this world to love. The battle scars of being an older gay man alone do take their toll.

JiEL said...

So sad news to hear of...

Never know what issues a friend or anybody around us are struggling against.

Hoper he could find eternal peace and be aware that he had very good friends on this earth.

All my sympathy to his family.

Nikki said...

so very sad

Marsha said...

I'm so, so sorry to hear this.