tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post2822944725885805023..comments2024-03-28T22:09:54.924-04:00Comments on The Closet Professor: Being Put Back in the ClosetJoehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-19309495578893966442010-09-12T02:04:32.774-04:002010-09-12T02:04:32.774-04:00On a lighter note, DJC, my gaydar has pinged on a ...On a lighter note, DJC, my gaydar has pinged on a couple of them. I try to make sure that I have an accepting environment so that my students can go to school for what they are meant to, to learn. I will also be there for any of them who want to talk privately about any problems that they have.<br /><br />I do hope that you got to read my follow-up to this post, "It’s Not All Bad…." Here is the link:<br /><br />http://closetprofessor.blogspot.com/2010/08/its-not-all-bad.htmlJoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-1473778904146358462010-09-12T00:54:09.227-04:002010-09-12T00:54:09.227-04:00Wow, that is one heavy post. I can not add anythi...Wow, that is one heavy post. I can not add anything more than what your buddies above had said but keep this in mind---while you may not know it or see it----there are kids at htat school that are going through their own time of questioning who they are----and the way you handle things will be something that they will remember for the rest of their lives...just as you remember something from your high school years....you have a chance to provide them the guidance that maybe you did not receive...keep your head up high and know you have fans rooting for you..djc314https://www.blogger.com/profile/06900266576938638135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-27971545509756694282010-08-29T21:50:37.973-04:002010-08-29T21:50:37.973-04:00It'll always be free to you.It'll always be free to you.crotchdivernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-66859237409467758432010-08-29T20:55:09.763-04:002010-08-29T20:55:09.763-04:00Thanks, crothdiver, that means a lot to me. Didn&...Thanks, crothdiver, that means a lot to me. Didn't Lucy only charge a nickle for her advice? Pretty cheap therapy your offering, LOL. But I know it will be worth every penny. It always is when in comes from you.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-82592024621849496452010-08-29T12:32:34.970-04:002010-08-29T12:32:34.970-04:00I luv U 2 Joe. I'm alawys here if you need an...I luv U 2 Joe. I'm alawys here if you need anything. Know know that.<br /><br />Just imgine me as Lucy from peanuts with my little advice stand. LMAOcrotchdivernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-36710698072254679682010-08-28T20:14:27.147-04:002010-08-28T20:14:27.147-04:00Thanks for the wonderful sentiments, Geoff. I do ...Thanks for the wonderful sentiments, Geoff. I do try to look on the bright side of things, and I know it is not all bad. My students love me, or at least they seem to. I'm not an easy teacher, but I think they like being challenged for a change. I also never asked the impossible from them, but expect their best and push them to do better.<br /><br />Hopefully, this is a temporary situation for a year or two. I am fortunate that I know who I am. I may have to hide that to an extent from others, but if I teach understanding and acceptance and use my life as an example, I hope that it will rub off on those around me.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-40700986283426754242010-08-28T03:46:08.667-04:002010-08-28T03:46:08.667-04:00one of my habits/perspectives is to try and look ...one of my habits/perspectives is to try and look at things from the most negative point of view and then pull positives out of them - it's not a redemptive kind of approach because i'll be damned if any of the crap we've gone through "needs" to have been experienced, but rather a tool of transformation - to trace back and see what possibilities might now be available<br />and so though i know you are in an incredibly unpleasant situation, I think also there is a profoundk nowledge that you are also not totally in the closet - your knowledge of your own self, of your needs and your desire to express something other than what these predetermined identities seems to be positioning you as - this all seeks to the work you have done already in coming out, in becoming. Neither is a process that ends - and so perhaps ths is not a closet but a another way of being where you are, working to rework, to re-envision who you are and who you want to become and how you want to live....<br />and in the darkness and loneliness, sometimes the thought that we are not starting from 0 again definitely can be enough to keep us going until the dawn and beyond<br />*hugs*<br />geoffGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09812681692815621021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-47329881495937252122010-08-27T23:12:43.714-04:002010-08-27T23:12:43.714-04:00I would love to see what it would be like if the r...I would love to see what it would be like if the roles were reversed and straight people had to come out instead of gay people. It's one of those "what ifs?" that if I am not mistaken there have been a few novels written about.<br /><br />I look forward to the day when all of America can be as progressive and accepting as our cities. It will happen one day, I feel sure, but just as racism still continues, so will homophobia. I attempt to teach my students each day to be more tolerant. I do what I can.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-20613837719471307832010-08-27T22:30:49.462-04:002010-08-27T22:30:49.462-04:00Joe, This story made me so angry I don't know ...Joe, This story made me so angry I don't know what to say. Wouldn't you love to see what would happen if some of these people who are so quick to deny you the freedom to be who you are, suddenly had to be in the closet for being straight? They would implode in 24 hours I have no doubt - and yet they expect you to live your whole life to suit their image of what you are "supposed to be" like, no matter how much it might kill you. <br /><br />Of course you can always move to some city or state that is more "accepting," as many gay people do - but why should you have to leave your home in order to be who you are? Here's to the day when beautiful, rural America - and not just America's cities or a handful of progressive states - will welcome us home.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-82004145102490021162010-08-27T01:47:32.632-04:002010-08-27T01:47:32.632-04:00I agree with you totally, Uncutplus. Sometimes, y...I agree with you totally, Uncutplus. Sometimes, you have to do what you have to do, and that is what I am currently doing. I am working on a post about coming out in the workplace (at another job a few years ago).Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-2690788145291298352010-08-26T23:48:38.460-04:002010-08-26T23:48:38.460-04:00Coming out is rarely an "all or none" pr...Coming out is rarely an "all or none" process, but often happens in degrees. Those that are truly out to everyone are indeed fortunate, but I believe that is not the case for most us.<br /><br />Throughout my professional career, I remained in the closet and acted very straight because it was in my best interest to do so. However, to a number of friends and some family members, I was out of the closet and free.<br /><br />The degree with which one comes out has to remain a personal decision as long as there is gay bigotry in this society.Uncutplushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13456398466578990531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-5554637387306778822010-08-26T16:36:58.822-04:002010-08-26T16:36:58.822-04:00Mike, I just wanted to let you know that not all K...Mike, I just wanted to let you know that not all K-12 schools are as homophobic as mine. Some are very accepting and enjoy the diversity of faculty because they provide a more broad based education. So hopefully, you won't end up teaching at a school like mine.<br /><br />If you ever want to talk about teaching or coming out or basically any topic on your mind, feel free to email me at jec1918@gmail.com. Not only do I love getting to know my readers better, but I would also love the chance to connect with another gay teacher.<br /><br />Best of luck with your student teaching, and I hope you find the perfect teaching job.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-79272019676012651772010-08-26T01:00:37.210-04:002010-08-26T01:00:37.210-04:00Hey man,
Sorry to hear you're back in the clo...Hey man,<br /><br />Sorry to hear you're back in the closet. I have a feeling I'll be in that boat especially in the next few months/year as I'm starting/finishing my student teaching and move into a K-12 school to work. <br /><br />I don't have the most masculine voice- not by choice. I am not the most masculine, but not the most feminine. I do enjoy "guy things" as much as any other guy.<br /><br />Best of luck- I know what your'e going through.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03866077134601099787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-74357144771798166242010-08-25T20:39:28.714-04:002010-08-25T20:39:28.714-04:00Fan of Casey, I did this post because I wanted to ...Fan of Casey, I did this post because I wanted to be honest with you guys. Yes, I did have my coming out, but one day soon, I hope that I can do it again and resume my life as it was. The dissertation has to get done, and it will, but for now, I am having to make the best of the situation I find myself. Sorry for the downer today, but I do still try to look on the bright side of things.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-14664259888530321482010-08-25T18:04:03.872-04:002010-08-25T18:04:03.872-04:00Joe Blow: This is so sad, I don't know what t...Joe Blow: This is so sad, I don't know what to say. How do I send you a virtual hug? Hopefully the compromises you have to make now will pay off later on, actually I know they will cause once you finish your dissertation, new opportunities will be available to you. There will be a whole new world waiting for you but unfortunately that means leaving the past and your family behind. That will be difficult. Stay strong, you've made it this far, just a little more to go.fan of caseynoreply@blogger.com