Monday, December 5, 2022

Another Busy Week

You might think that with the end of the year fast approaching, things would start to slow down, and maybe they will after this week, but this week is going to be a busy one. It’s a week of meetings, classes, and programs, most of which I am the one organizing. So far, Thursday is the only day that seems to have nothing pressing on my calendar. Hopefully, that will continue to be the case. Wednesday will be, by far, the busiest as we have a special guest coming to do a presentation. Though I scheduled this program, I’m embarrassed to say that I really don’t know what to expect. Hopefully, enough people will be curious enough to show up. I don’t expect a crowd like we had for the last one, but I’m hoping it will be a decent showing. The rest of my time is likely to be in one meeting after another. Next week, I only have one thing on my agenda and that’s for Monday. Then the next week, I’ll only work half a week as I will be flying home for Christmas on December 22. I haven’t been home since Christmas 2019, so I’m not sure how I am feel about this trip home.


  1. Good luck with the presentation on Wednesday.

    This is my first week back from Brazil and I have a crazy week too. Unsure what it says about me that I'm already looking forward to Friday afternoon.

  2. Keep expectations low for home at Christmas. That way you are never let down. Expect the worse so that if it is exactly that you can go, well it is exactly what I expected. Any thing else is a bonus. Besides home visits are for family, not you. It is an interruption to your life, not a part of it.

    That is how I survived those days, when there was family I dreaded being around.

  3. Happy Monday Joe,

    I worry about your mental health flying home for Christmas!

    I know it has been a while since you have seen your family BUT knowing the stories you have shared of your mother I worry.

    I hope you visit on your own terms. Staying in a hotel or with others besides mother. We don't need you to be a captive audience of unacceptance/backhanded compliments.

    I share an Instagrammer I follow Josh Conolly-- --@josh_ffw. Please check out his gram and see if there are tools that you can use.

    Much warmth-


    1. I think a visit home is a good idea and there are no doubt positive things about it. I'm guessing you have friends nearby and perhaps places you want to visit. I also think it's a good idea to set some boundaries with your mother. Let her know what's unacceptable. Joe. I don't know you but I like you. When I'm a bit down I love to visit your blog. At the risk of being clichéd "You raise me up" Don't allow anyone to bully you especially family. They're supposed to be in your corner. I do hope you have a good time. If not, shake the dust from your feet and head back to the people who love you. Thanks also to VRCooper. You inspired me with your comment

    2. Victor. Sorry I was referring to you as VR. Just saw your name was Victor. I'm not much of a tekkie,!

  4. Anonymous is right.
    Keep expectations low for home at Christmas.

  5. Joe I entered a comment but think it went as a reply to VRCooper by mistake. Maybe he can share it with you.

  6. Joe I think going home is a good idea. Just set some boundaries for your Mother and let her know what's not acceptable..Though I don't know you personally, I like you. When I'm down,I visit your blog..At the risk of being clichéd "You raise me up." Hopefully you have a good time but if not shake the dust from your feet and head back to people who love you. VR's idea about a hotel one might be a good option.

  7. You're to nice a guy to be bullied especially by your family. Put an end to it gently but firmly once and for all.

  8. JimNS--

    No issue here. Just don't call me late for drag brunch.

    I am a little older than Joe and hopefully a little wiser. I am not saying I know it all but I have picked up a few things along the way in life.

    I am so sick and tired of this "family" crap. We should love our parents no matter what. And if they continue to act asinine then we should forgive. Hell no!!

    Our parents, family, and friends are people. The Instagram URL I shared is my mindset of how to address less than people in our lives.

    We have to set boundaries on who has access to us. Just because they are family, dear friends they get a free pass. Discover what works for you. Yes, people do make mistakes BUT the key is to work it out and do better. That is the key. I come from a broken family where my father knew better but did not do better. For my sake, I went my ways. I did not attend his funeral when he died.

    Trust me life is short. At 65 I am broken. The past has made me what I am today. I could go on and on but the key is to discover what works for you as you move along in life. Find people that challenge you, respectfully, support you, and make you a better person. If one is dodging what you say in a relationship, whatever it is, then it is time to reevaluate. Try to be a good friend, and person to others as well. We never know what the other person is going through. Your smile, your quick "Have a nice day!"...will mean wonders to someone.

    Rant over!



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