tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post3971559997648830026..comments2024-03-27T13:20:39.780-04:00Comments on The Closet Professor: Just Because You Come Out…Joehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-52398829460781642322010-08-29T22:19:56.766-04:002010-08-29T22:19:56.766-04:00LOL, Steve. Someday My Prince Will Come. Maybe w...LOL, Steve. Someday My Prince Will Come. Maybe we were really brothers in a past life. One of these days, I am going to get around to another Closet Professor Theorizes posts, and explain my thoughts on gay men and reincarnation.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-25174022424093183282010-08-29T22:13:31.997-04:002010-08-29T22:13:31.997-04:00Yeah...I was really lucky - that, and I firmly bel...Yeah...I was really lucky - that, and I firmly believe that the Almighty had a firm hand in things. Who am I to argue.<br /><br />Yeah, you and I are Bro's - just how and why, I do not know - but we are.<br /><br />Got your back, baby Bro!!!!<br /><br />Now we have to find you, definatively, a husband [a.k.a. a pain the the ass. LOL] Ok, that last remark can be can be so misinterpreted on SO many different levels. You know what I mean. [snicker]<br /><br />Stevecrotchdivernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-8645756018710921282010-08-29T21:07:15.183-04:002010-08-29T21:07:15.183-04:00Crothdiver, at least your prince did come. I'...Crothdiver, at least your prince did come. I'm still waiting on mine, but I do sometimes think you and I must have been separated at birth.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-84707697792048623552010-08-29T12:59:55.917-04:002010-08-29T12:59:55.917-04:00You have GOT to be my little brother. We are SO m...You have GOT to be my little brother. We are SO much a like.<br /><br />Gotcha back Bro!!crotchdivernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-56887526174377166172010-08-24T17:37:17.002-04:002010-08-24T17:37:17.002-04:00Mark, I know, I just have to be patient. I try to...Mark, I know, I just have to be patient. I try to be a patient person, but sometimes it is therapeutic to rant occasionally, LOL. And thanks for saying that I sound like a dreamboat. Now if I could just get someone within at least 300 miles of me to say the same thing...<br /><br />I'm glad you like the new blog, and I hope you become a regular reader. I know you are an "edgy husband" and all, but I do hope your partner knows what a fantastic man he has. I have always thought that from reading your blog.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-66557098939121314502010-08-24T13:32:00.888-04:002010-08-24T13:32:00.888-04:00Joe, This is the first post I've read on your ...Joe, This is the first post I've read on your new blog, and I was blown away by your honesty and sensitivity. In my book, if you don't fit any of the stereotypes - straight or gay - then you're doing the right thing, being your own man. Personally, I think you sound like a dreamboat. Seriously.<br /><br />Before I met my partner, I went through a long period of being single where each new guy I met only lasted a couple of dates. Then I met my partner and it's been almost 20 years. The right guy is on his way to you - sometimes the universe works slower than we'd like, that's all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-65423910963770660542010-08-23T23:35:55.283-04:002010-08-23T23:35:55.283-04:00Fan of Casey, there truly is a wide range of gayne...Fan of Casey, there truly is a wide range of gayness out there, from the bisexual to the gay, from the effeminate to the masculine. All we can really strive for is to be true to ourselves and our situation.<br /><br />And don't feel bad at all. I always strive to be as honest as possible with you guys. I want this to be a place where we can discuss gay culture and life without any fear and let it take us in whatever direction it takes us.<br /><br />There is a little melancholy in my words. It happens occasionally, though I strive daily to be an upbeat and positive person for myself and those around me. Sometimes, I fail at that, but that is why we have friends, even virtual ones, like you. I do miss the intimacy and connection that comes with romance and nurturing a relationship. I may not have found that with a man yet, but I know how it feels with some of the women I dated before coming out, just in those cases there was always something missing. I was always the shoulder to cry on, and there was never anyone to hold me when I was down (that is ultimately the kind of relationship I want, one of mutual love and respect, of equality).<br /><br />Sorry for the long reply and the melancholy, but I decided to lighten up for tomorrow instead of just posting my next rant. Tomorrow will be a little bit of fun before a very serious post I have been working on that really lays all my vulnerabilities out there. It has taken me a while to write it, but it has been in the works since I started this coming out series.<br /><br />And on a final note, yes, I do believe if we always think positively then we will find the right life partner eventually. It may not be what we always expected, but life is filled with unexpected surprises.<br /><br />I'm being awfully loquacious tonight, aren't I? LOL. Thanks for reading.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-49842667852911506492010-08-23T23:22:38.500-04:002010-08-23T23:22:38.500-04:00HH, thanks for the support. After the several pos...HH, thanks for the support. After the several posts I did about coming out, I decided to get to the reality of my current situation (in this post, and one I am working on for Wednesday). And thus it became a rant. Oh, well, I am entitled to those every once in a while, and as you said, I think those same feelings are felt by a lot of us, not just me. None of us are perfect, and guys should look beyond our imperfections and see us for who we really are.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-2824701583190548812010-08-23T22:21:14.071-04:002010-08-23T22:21:14.071-04:00JB -- thanks for fulfilling my request. I don'...JB -- thanks for fulfilling my request. I don't fit the typically gay stereotype either. But like your coming out advice, you know there's a whole range of gayness out there.<br /><br />I feel a little bad asking you to expose vulnerabilities but you did so without hesitation. Your comments provide a bit more insight on your journey being out. I could not help noticing a tone of sadness and melancholy in your words, a wistfulness -- which is understandable. When you feel like you have a lot to offer but with no takers, it's like you are going to burst if you don't find an outlet. And I don't mean sex -- it's more missing the intimacy and connection that comes with romance and nurturing a relationship. Don't worry too much, it will eventually happen for you.fan of caseynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-36445967434141617832010-08-23T21:13:51.390-04:002010-08-23T21:13:51.390-04:00Your last paragraph describes the situation a lot ...Your last paragraph describes the situation a lot of men are in, including me.<br /><br />We view ourselves through the stereotypes placed on us by society (gay and straight), and as a result, if we don't look or act a certain way, we feel like we don't measure up.HHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11000302521458741484noreply@blogger.com