tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post6402283957795202600..comments2024-03-28T22:09:54.924-04:00Comments on The Closet Professor: Remembering Joehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-88510979463085911672021-11-29T11:38:45.023-05:002021-11-29T11:38:45.023-05:00BosGuy, I know that my friend would have been so h...BosGuy, I know that my friend would have been so hurt and upset to know that his death affected me the way it has. He would have never wanted to hurt me, and he’d only blame himself. That was the kind of person he was. He was always too harsh on himself and wanted so much for people not to feel the same pain he had felt. He had been rejected by his family for his sexuality, and he so dearly wanted just to be loved. I loved him so much, and I told him so loved him as often as I could. I know others in his life did as well. He was such a sweet and dear person.<br /><br />I keep his picture in my bedroom, and I do often talk to him. I ask him for advice and tell him about things that are going on in my life. Isabella just looks on with a very puzzled expression because she knows I’m not talking to her, and I’m not talking to anyone on the phone, which she gets very jealous about. I adopted Isabella to help me deal with the loss, and he would have absolutely loved my little girl.<br /><br />These days, I try to dwell on the friendship we had and all of the good things about it instead of the loss, but on this day each year, it’s hard not to dwell on the loss. I miss him so much.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299122685163501819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5356114186987252972.post-935917922329392082021-11-29T07:45:20.676-05:002021-11-29T07:45:20.676-05:00I'm sorry for your loss, but it was lovely to ...I'm sorry for your loss, but it was lovely to read about those memories you have that remind you why he was such a good friend and a special person in your life. Wrap those happy memories around you to keep those special moments alive. Continue to have those conversations with your friend - even if they are now a bit one-sided. <br /><br />And of course, despite all those memories, I hope you can carve out some part of the day to celebrate your birthday. If possible, celebrate with a friend. I should think that would make him very happy. <br />BosGuyhttp://www.bosguy.comnoreply@blogger.com