When I was growing up, there was a family across the street. They were good people, but never knew them too well. The son was a different story, I wanted to know him more. I never knew him well and he was five years younger, and he did make my gaydar go off. We just didn't associate much, even though we literally lived across the road from one another. Though my parents still own our old house, they don't live their anymore, just spend nights there occasionally to check on things.
Over the weekend, I set up a profile on Grindr. The responses have been pretty good. One of the messages was from a guy who was within 6 miles. Now when you live in the country like I do, that's pretty damn close. We were chatting a little and I asked where he was, since it was so close. Then he named the road that I grew up on. I looked back at his profile and replied, "OMG, you grew up across the road from me." His response was basically, "Huh, what are you talking about?" Then I said his full name and told him mine. Then it dawned on him, we really did grow up with our houses basically facing each other.
We began to talk about family and what we were doing now. Then he said he'd always found me attractive and even said that I was "Sexy, very sexy." I told him I always thought he was very cute too. He was five years younger than me, which was a huge difference growing up, but I'm glad we've connected now and maybe will become friends.
I've chatted with a few more guys on Grindr, some not worth more than a few words, but others, I'm hoping my turn into more. One in particular will at least be a good friend to hang out with. Another, I think could be more; we connected on a deeper level. Both are very easy to talk to. One is a few years older than I am, and one a few years younger. I met the older one for drinks and we talked for hours. The younger one and I have talked quite a bit on the phone and through texting. We will get together Tuesday. I'm very excited. I am trying to be bolder and take more steps to help myself be happier.
I hope this deepens into friendship, at least.
ReplyDeleteA former college apartment-mate (on whom I had a major crush) found me through my blog a few years back, and we have renewed and deepened our friendship after a gap of forty years.
He is gay, too, and had things been different in time and space ... But I am now married and he is in a long-term relationship. He still looks hot, though, IMHO, for a guy in his early 60s.
We enjoy frequent communication, read one another's writing, and hop -- someday, somewhere -- to be able to sit down over a cup of coffee. Meanwhile, I am happy to have him back in my life -- even if he is half a country away.
Good for you!
ReplyDeleteThat's cool! The people you find on Grindr sometimes. Hopefully the 2-3 you mentioned either turn into friends or something more. That's cool about the kid living so close to you and knowing him from when you were younger.
ReplyDeleteGlad you're stepping out!!! I can identify, my best friend in 6-8th grades was cute, and I was "hot" for him - at least as far as hot goes when you're 12-13 years old! But he resisted my fumbling advances, only to come out to me many years later when I visited him back in the same town. I came out to him, but he was married, so I couldn't make a move. Sadly, he died a few years ago from complications from AIDS. I just remember how much I was attracted to him on so many levels, even way back then.
ReplyDeleteGood luck on the Grindr trail!
Peace <3
Jay
And who says prayers are not answered!!! Maybe in an unexpected manner, but answered non the less!!!
ReplyDeleteI had something quite similar happen to me. When I was 21, there was a hot 16 year old kid at our community swimming pool. He always sought me out to wrestle in the water. I did not mind! We became good friends, played sports together and watched sporting events together. Then he went off to college.
ReplyDelete40 years later, I ran into that guy. Our friendship picked up right where it left off and we still have the same chemistry, though he is married and we have done nothing physical. But we are very good friends again.
Good luck!
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