Even though roughly half of the LGBT community identifies as bisexual, they’re seldom represented in the media. Nevertheless, more and more millennials are beginning to view themselves as bisexual and sexually fluid. A recent YouGov study discovered that a third of 18-24 year olds in the U.S. and Israel put themselves along a continuum of sexuality, rather than at either end. In the UK, roughly 50% don’t view themselves as 100% gay or straight.
Even though there are a huge number of bisexuals, and the number of bisexual-identifying people is growing, they often feel invisible. They often feel alone.
This feeling of isolation contributes to a slew of mental health issues that highly correlate with bisexuality. Bisexuals have high rates of depression, suicidality, self-harm, smoking and alcohol abuse, and intimate-partner violence. Recent data from a Human Rights Campaign study revealed that bisexual youth are less likely than lesbian and gay youth to feel there’s a supportive adult they can talk to.
These feelings of isolation also keep bisexuals closeted because they don’t feel as if they have a bi community. They don’t think people will accept us. It's estimated that only 28% of bisexuals come out. Research from Dr. Eric Schrimshaw of Columbia University Mailman School of Public Health revealed that most bisexual men know their sexuality. Their reasons for not disclosing it don't arise from confusion, but rather they don’t come out because they fear rejection from their partners and ostracization from their families and communities.
Bisexuals face additional hardships that monosexuals (either gay or straight) don't experience. The only way to change this is through visibility. This is why this week—Bisexual Awareness Week—is so important. This is why bi-visibility matters. This is why it’s crucial that bisexuals come out as often and to as many people as we can. Not only will your decision to come out create more visibility for others, you will also start to meet other bi folks, and can become an integral member of the bisexual community. So please, come out and share you story. Let’s make it easier for the next, growing generation of bisexuals to be out, comfortable, and proud of who they are.
By the way, Celebrate Bisexuality Day is observed tomorrow on September 23 by members of the bisexual community and their supporters. This day is a call for the bisexual community, their friends and supporters to recognize and celebrate bisexuality, bisexual history, bisexual community and culture, and all the bisexual people in their lives. First observed in 1999, Celebrate Bisexuality Day is the brainchild of three United States bisexual rights activists: Wendy Curry of Maine, Michael Page of Florida, and Gigi Raven Wilbur of Texas.
Adapted from an Out Magazine article.
Thanks for sharing this article. It really describes my life as a closeted, married bisexual man. My wife affirms gay, lesbian and transgender people to the point that we have marched at pride parades with our church in support of civil rights. The one group that she has irrational prejudice about is bisexuals. She says things like, "bisexual men are always unfaithful and I would never marry one." I smile with the irony of the situation. I would love to tell her about myself, my 5-year relationship with another man, and tell her that despite my other urgings, my love and physical desire for her is so strong that I cannot imagine being unfaithful to our vows. I know though that if I did tell her, our marriage would be over. This keeps me silent.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was partnered with men, the same prejudice prevailed and I hid my real sexual orientation for some of the reasons listed in the article.
The Closet Professor, I am from Brazil. My question is: did you ever hooked up with a bi man? or know some woman that did?
ReplyDeleteI had a bisexual boyfriend.
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