I don’t think the generation after mine realizes how lucky they are. I am in awe of the wealth of information and data at our fingertips these days.. When I was a teenager, the Internet was very new. I think I’ve mentioned before that I was in college the first time I had the chance to use the Internet. I took to it fairly quickly, though. I was able for the first time to better explore my attraction to guys (even if I didn’t understand what all that meant at the time). One thing many of us take for granted is the quick and easy access we now have to more…adult content. Our content was so innocent compared to what young gay men have today. At least it was for me.
For better or worse, gone are the days of magazine clippings, underwear catalogs, and dial-up internet connections that take 15 minutes to load a torso. That’s what it was like for me as a teenager and a young college student. The idea of going to the adult section of a movie store, or god forbid just using your imagination, is completely lost on the youth of today.
One interesting thing though is that generations prior to mine were much freer about male nudity, especially in locker rooms and such male only spaces, but my generation rarely got fully naked in from of one another. On rare occasions did I see guys get fully naked in the locker room at PE or when I played basketball in high school, but even those few times were very brief. Masturbation was a completely taboo topic, and you’d never dare admit that you did that. In some ways, the generations after me have been freer to discuss such things, and they are becoming less shy in the locker rooms again.
Earlier this week, Twitter came together to reminisce about these desperate times. The conversation was initiated by Chris Kelly, known for his work on Saturday Night Live. “What photo do YOU remember printing out on your family’s shared computer and masturbating to for weeks/months?” wrote Kelly, alongside a pixelated picture of a shirtless Jon Bon Jovi.
Gay Twitter sprung into action, all too eager to share the first additions to their own masturbatory fantasies. There were some of the usual suspects. Celebrities like Justin Timberlake, Heath Ledger, and Marky Mark. There were also clippings from fashion magazines and underwear advertisements. Does anybody remember International Male or the Undergear Catalogs?
Then there was even a smattering of some obscure ones. The kind of pictures you might resort to in a pinch (we’ve all been there). My most obscure (i.e. embarrassing) was probably the Nelson Twins. Good God, that hair! Those clothes! I remember I had a special edition magazine dedicated just to them. I actually did like, their music.
There were also the myriad of workout magazines. Those magazines, the catalogs, etc. were what I kept secretly under my bed. Then when I was in college, I discovered A&F Quarterly. OMG, they were so homoerotic, you could even excuse the fact that they sometimes showed girls. It just took a little bit of skin back then to turn me on. Tastes change though.
Now there’s PornHub, Snapchat, Twitter, and OnlyFans just to name a few of the massive amount of masturbatory material out there. Not to mention all the information you’d ever want about being gay. While things were beginning to change back in the late 90s and early 2000s, things were nowhere near as open as today. Kids are coming out younger and younger. Many do not have the fear and stigma of being gay that my generation had, and it was worse for the generation before mine. I said many because there are still very religiously conservative enclaves out there, such as my home state of Alabama or God forbid you’re a gay Mormon in Utah.
So my question of the day is: What was your favorite special material to get you off? Who was it? Where was the source of your entertainment? I honestly would like to know. You can always comment anonymously if you’re too embarrassed to sign your name to it. Let’s hear it.
Chris Evans covered in Cool Whip in Not Another Teen Movie. Look it up. That's all I'll say.
ReplyDeleteThere was another not so common underwear catalog called Ah-Men.. poor sepia and b/w photos but the guys were incredibly hot and some were even hairy. I collected After-Dark magazines because of the "gay" content and photos of guys and then later on got a subscription to In-Touch Magazine... they kept me busy for many an evening.
ReplyDeleteA quick aside:
ReplyDeleteIn general, I liked when characters were shirtless just casually. I was an early bloomer, like, shooting at 9, and my little brother was into Power Rangers and other Saban macekres. More than a few episodes had two of them shirtless. Though obviously it was the memory, since I couldn't whip it out right there.
Music videos (For a while, musicians seemed to refuse to wear a shirt; Red Hot Chili Peppers opted for just a tube sock in a celebration of the phallus. I later realized how wise this is: Those lights get hot.) were another.
And classic movies like Hercules and Tarzan. Or not-so-classic movies like Beastmaster and Conan. (For the record, I define the classic era of films as ending with Star Wars because of how Jaws and Star Wars changed the industry's business model.)
Oh yeah, 1983.
Oh, forgot to mention: My parents had a medical encyclopedia which I'm assuming was a British import (spellings, the article on circumcision said it was rare in the West). There was some nudity with varying degrees of value as stroke material. The naked guy in the penis article was completely gratuitous, but so right.
ReplyDeleteSo, that about does it for guys.
Joe,
ReplyDeleteI am a bit older than you and my earliest material was the Sears catalog. I have progressed from there to the hardest of the hard on the internet.
But that is not why I am making this entry.
If you have Netflix go watch "Circus of Books" immediately. This is a documentary done by the daughter of a nice Jewish husband and wife who quite accidentally got into the selling of gay porn at a bookstore in LA about 40 years ago. Then the moved into video production of gay films.
All the while the wife abhored the stuff, but it was a living and fed them and their three kids. She was a regular at synagogue and coached her two boys through their bar mitzvahs. When she discovered that one of her sons was gay she began to rethink her concepts of her gay customers and she and her husband became the head of LA PFLAG.
Along the way in this documentary we see the progression of gay male porn over the decades, much of it surviving because this unlikely couple served as distributors for the stuff. They also moved into selling novelties, even holding signing parties for the likes of Jeff Stryker when his replica came out. BTW, he's held up pretty well.
The is a bit over an hour and well done. Has a 100% Rotten Tomatoes rating.
For those of us who lived through the era, it will bring back a lot of memories. And for those who just turned 18 you will discover what came before Porn Hub. :)
I remember the Sears catalog too, especially the Wish Book. When I was a kid, my mom would give us the Wish Book to choose the toys we wanted for Christmas. I remember always sneaking peeks at the men's underwear section. That is probably my earliest experience with such images.
ReplyDeleteI have "Circus of Books" on my watch list. I added it as soon as I heard about it, but I haven't had a chance to watch it yet. I will.