For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.—Jeremiah 29:11
How many of you have made New Year’s resolutions? The real question is:
How many of you have already blown New Year’s resolutions?
I have read that in America, 25 percent of us blow or discard our resolutions by the end of the first day. Change can be so difficult that even people who want to change will most likely fall back into old patterns and not make change permanent. For this reason, I never make New Year’s resolutions. I have goals I want to work towards to better myself, but I do this all year long and don’t need a special day to do so.
Permanent change can be very difficult because we continue to hang around people who knew us before the change—we maintain old patterns in life that don’t want encourage change. Not many people like change. I know I don’t, but sometimes it’s necessary.
We also tend to compartmentalize ourselves. I think, for a lot of LGBTQ+ people we’ve been taught to keep parts of ourselves separated. And it makes sense because it helps us to survive. It helps us to make it through until we’re ready to come out, to deal with unaffirming family, or to keep ourselves safe when we’re out in public.
We get so used to doing this separation that we don’t even notice it anymore. And yet, at some point this compartmentalism stops serving us. It’s not a healthy way to live. You’re constantly trying to remember how to act in different situations when you should just be yourself.
The new year is here. Look at yourself. Are you the person you want to be? Are you being honest about who you are? If you have compartmentalized your life to the extent that it has become unhealthy, admit that it’s time for a change. I’m not going to say to make resolutions, but I do think we should set goals. Start out slow and integrate all parts of your life into one identity. Be intentional about taking steps towards the coming future. No matter what, refuse to let anything pull you back.
Happy New Year!
Happy new year to you and Isabella, hope it is a good one for you.
ReplyDeleteAll the best, Patrick
Te souvetan (nous te souhaitons)
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qu’aquesto annado te adugue (que cette nouvelle année t' apporte)
lou bonur (le bonheur)
la pas (la paix)
la joio (la joie)
la santa (la santé)
l’amour (l’amour)
qu’aquesto annado coumplisse (que cette année accomplisse)
tóuti ti/vòsti proujèt (tous tes projets)
Which, in the language of Shakespeare, gives
We wish you
happy new year and
may this new year bring you happiness peace joy health love may this year accomplish all your projects
Happy New Year, Joe!
ReplyDeleteI never make New Year’s resolutions, too.
ReplyDeleteIf anything can go wrong, it will (Murphy's law).
I agree. Better to set goals and work toward them. Happy New Year.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post. Reminds me of one on another blog. I am not happy with my "self" because it is not my authentic self. Too many compartments or roles I play. Like you I am too trying to be authentic but it can be really tri cky. Actually I was pretty authentic a few years ago but then moved for a new job and adjusted my "self" to fit in. Never really a good move. Sometimes the challenge is to aim for the authentic self and other times it's maintaining it once we get there. It would be nice to be able to be real all the time. The way you share, Joe, and your blig in general always helps. Thanks.
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