Friday, May 1, 2015

The Boyfriend

I've been asked several times about my boyfriend.  Several people have said that it just came out of the blue, and I just started including him in my posts.  So I thought I'd do a post answering some of your questions, but my boyfriend is a private person, and we are both in the closet, so I don't want to give away too much.
We met back in January when he sent me a message on OkCupid. It was a nice message and most importantly it was more than just a cursory "Hey, how's it going?"  We sent a few more messages back and forth and then exchanged contact information with one another.  We began texting back and forth.  I personally hate talking on the phone.  I often can't hear very well on the phone, and I hate the way my voice sounds over the phone.  So we basically texted back and forth getting to know each other.  Then we decided to meet, and I'll tell you about that in a minute.
First let me tell you about my wonderful man.  He's a truly brilliant man, and I just love talking to him.  He also seems to enjoy listening to me babble on as well.  I have to say that's an important thing.  I've spent my life with most people telling me I'm boring or over their head or just plain tuning me out.  My family does it and even some of my friends do, so when someone is actually interested in what I have to say, it means a great deal to me.  I'm always amazed that I have anyone who even reads this blog, but many of you keep coming back every day.
Now let me tell you something about myself that you probably don't know.  In person, I am painfully shy unless I am very comfortable around you and know you well.  I've always been that way.  I was extremely nervous the first time we met. The first time we scheduled to meet, I was so nervous that I worked myself into a state of nausea and a severe headache, but a friend calmed me down and the next day we decided to try to meet again.  So we met up and he took me to lunch.  As soon as I got in his car, I knew I'd met someone very special.  I was not shy around him.  I felt at ease, and I began to talk.  I will admit that there was a little bit of hanky-panky on the way to lunch, but I'm not gonna kiss and tell all my secrets (he's a great kisser, by the way).  After we ate lunch, we decided to go to a few thrift stores.  He loves thrift stores, and I needed some props for our play at school (a play that the kids just wouldn't get behind, and I ended up canceling).
It was a lovely afternoon that day, and I think we both knew that it wasn't going to be the last time we got together.  I realized that after we parted that first day how much I had talked, and to be honest, I was kind of embarrassed.  I never tal that much with someone I just met, and I was so afraid that I had monopolized the conversation.  When I told him this, he assured me that he loved every minute of it.  Since then we have gone on one or two dates each week.  He is so sweet, kind, and handsome.  I miss him every moment I'm away from him.
The highlight so far has been our mini-vacation together over spring break.  It's kind of hard finding places to be intimate because it's not like I can bring him home and vice versa.  So spending a few days together in a beautiful hotel in the mountains was heaven.  I'll be house sitting for a week next month, and though we both have to work during the day, we can spend the rest of the time together and fall asleep in each other's arms at night. In June before his daughter comes to spend the summer with him (he is divorced and has a teenage daughter), we are taking a trip to New Orleans for a few days and then going to spend a few days with a friend of mine.  By the way, the friend is the same one I told you came to visit and we all went out.  She really liked my boyfriend, and since I can't tell my family about him, she's the most important one I want to know because she's like a sister to me.  Other friends that I've talked to about my boyfriend have been very encouraging as well.  I'm particularly grateful for the friend that calmed me down before my first date, he's my greatest confidant.  I can't wait to be away with him in Louisiana so that we can be out and about as a couple.  Sadly, after that I won't get to see much of him over the summer, but we'll still keep in touch.  I'm not letting this man get away.


Michael Dodd said...

Love it, love it, love it! Thanks for sharing this bit of yourself with us.

Susan said...

What a wonderful post! I am so, so happy the two of you met. And him being a teacher too—what a great coincidence. You sound perfect for each other. Thank you for sharing part of the story with us.

Joe, there is no reason to wonder why anyone stops by to read your blog. It is always interesting and thought-provoking. And I don't see the "babbling." What I see is a caring and intelligent human being. :)

GK said...

Joe, I am ever so HAPPY for YOU. Reading today's Blog post warmed the cockles of my heart & I rather detest cold "cockles",,, so thank you kindly.And yes, Susan [previous commentor today] is correct in all aspects concerning your Blog. I savor your writings, like a fine wine. We are blessed to have you in our lives. KNOW that, okay?

JiEL said...

Hoping all the LOVE and happiness you deserve.

LOVE is the only law God gave us and that INCLUDE all in our lives' actions.

Nice to hear that you found such a «soul mate».

XXX to you two

greenbeltandy said...

Hi Joe,

I have made it a habit of visiting your blog, because you know so much about so many subjects, it is always interesting and thought provoking.

Another aspect I love is that you are such an honest person, totally devoid of BS and pretentiousness. You are not afraid to speak about your human weaknesses and imprefections, even though your strong points and good points far outweigh anything negative.

Having been in a 42 year relationship, what is very apparent is that your BF is a kind, considerate person and that you have enough in common to be great friends as well as great lovers. Also, he seems to want to love you, not just sexually but as the person you are. Being loved and being friends is definitely a winning combination, one that can carry you thru in the long run.


jlo said...

Joe, I am so glad that you share this very personal information with us. I am so glad that you have met someone to be happy with. LOVE AND HUGS, Jeff

Gay Groom said...

How lovely! :)

Jay M. said...

Totally awesome post! I am so happy for you! This is great.

It's interesting that we share something in gregarious and outgoing as I can be, I, too, can work myself into a nauseous state when confronting the idea of meeting a new person, especially one with whom I might become close.

I sure understand all the hiding, and the relief that someone else knows! ALL of my "relationships" have been that way, and even now with "the boy" (while there is nothing sexual involved) we are careful in public.

I forget exactly how I found your blog (it was almost 5 years ago) but I don't think I've missed more than a handful of posts. And I've enjoyed almost every one of them (some were over my head! HAHAHA).

Love you, CP, so glad you are here, and my friend!

Peace <3

Marsha said...

So happy for you!!

Amanda said...

You're blog is wonderful and so are you. He can see the wonderful light in you too. He sounds like the perfect catch so definitely hang on to him. We all need to feel accepted and loved. I'm happy that you have such a great guy in your life and can share it with someone.

And your blog is always a source of joy for me. So, don't doubt yourself and enjoy the love! (hugs)

Nikki Hardin said...

Just catching up on your blog and I am so happy to hear you're with a nice guy who appreciates you!