Friday, August 14, 2026

Do You Have a Type?

I came across the picture above while looking for something to use for a Pic of the Day, and my first thought was, Well, if I have a type, he certainly fits it.

Over the years, though, I’ve realized that my “type” isn’t nearly as specific as I once thought it was. My tastes have changed, broadened, and sometimes surprised me. I can find all sorts of men attractive, including plenty who look nothing like the men I would have described as my ideal when I was younger. More importantly, I’ve learned that what’s inside a man can make him far more attractive to me than what’s on the outside.

A man can be absolutely gorgeous and check every box on my imaginary list, but if he’s arrogant, cruel, selfish, or simply unpleasant to be around, that physical attraction can disappear remarkably fast. On the other hand, I’ve known men who might not have immediately caught my eye across a crowded room, but the more I got to know them, the more attractive they became. Intelligence, kindness, humor, compassion, confidence without arrogance, and a genuine interest in other people can transform the way I see someone.

Looks matter, of course. I’m not going to pretend they don’t. Physical attraction is often what first catches our attention, especially when all we have to go on is a photograph or a handsome stranger walking past us. But there’s a difference between what initially attracts us to someone and what makes us continue to find that person attractive.

All of that being said, apparently some things never change.

If you asked me to describe the physical “type” I’ve consistently found attractive throughout my life, the guy in this picture comes pretty darn close. Tall and lithe rather than overly muscular, with a lean, naturally athletic body and just a smattering of chest hair. Give him blond hair and blue eyes, and he would pretty much check every box.

I’ve wondered why blond hair and blue eyes have always had such an effect on me. I suspect there are at least two reasons. The first is that my earliest crush was a blond-haired, blue-eyed boy. Maybe somewhere in the back of my mind, that first experience of being intensely attracted to another guy established a template that has stuck with me ever since.

The other possibility is much simpler: it’s the opposite of me. I have brown eyes, and I had brown hair before most of what I have left decided gray was a better option. Maybe there has always been something particularly appealing about those lighter features because they’re so different from my own.

Of course, plenty of men I’ve been attracted to over the years haven’t had blond hair or blue eyes. Some haven’t been tall. Some haven’t been particularly lithe. Some have been hairy, some smooth, some muscular, some skinny, and some somewhere in between. Attraction has a funny way of ignoring the rules we make for it.

And the older I get, the more I realize that the men who stay attractive in my mind aren’t necessarily the ones who came closest to some physical ideal. They’re the ones whose personalities drew me in. Someone can become more handsome the longer you know him just as easily as someone beautiful can become decidedly less so once he opens his mouth.

Maybe that’s the difference between having a “type” and actually being attracted to someone. A type is an ideal we carry around in our heads. Attraction is much messier, more unpredictable, and ultimately more interesting.

Still, if a tall, lithe, blond-haired, blue-eyed man with a little chest hair happens to walk by, I’m probably going to notice.

I’m only human.

What about you? Do you have a “type”? And if you do, have the people you’ve actually fallen for fit that type—or have they completely surprised you?

Thursday, August 13, 2026

Pic of the Day


Reading for Pleasure

Sometimes a picture can strike inspiration when I’m trying to figure out what to write about. The picture above caught my attention: a young man, nude, relaxing in the grass with a good book. There are certainly worse ways to spend a summer afternoon.

Usually, when I post a picture of a guy reading, I look up the book first, just to make sure it isn’t something I’d come to regret posting. The book he’s reading is Le Prince Pédant II. I don’t speak French, so I had no idea what the title meant. It turns out to be The Pedant Prince II by Taram Boyle, the second and final volume of Le Prince Pédant.

According to the book’s description:

Tristan fait face à un tribunal éclésiastique. Son crime? Une relation contre-nature avec un homme. Tristan n’est pas dupe. Il sait bien que l’Église vise en réalité le Prince Hamelin de Hardourie. Les témoignages s’enchaînent et sont accablants. Tristan réalise qu’il ne pourra pas échapper au bûcher déjà dressé devant l’église. Seul un miracle pourra le sauver…

In English:

Tristan faces an ecclesiastical court. His crime? An unnatural relationship with a man. Tristan is not fooled. He is well aware that the Church is actually targeting Prince Hamelin of Hardourie. The testimonies follow one another and are overwhelming. Tristan realizes that he will not be able to escape the stake already erected in front of the church. Only a miracle can save him…

It sounds like it could be an interesting book, if only there were an English translation.

Currently, I’m reading the Chester Falls series by Ana Ashley. It’s not exactly highbrow literature, but these days I mostly read what I often jokingly call “trashy gay romance.” It’s not really trashy; I simply read for enjoyment, and sometimes I need a bit of fluff. There’s nothing wrong with a book whose main purpose is to entertain you.

Some of my favorite authors of M/M romance are May Archer, Lucy Lennox, and J.E. Birk. Their books are fun, easy reads, and sometimes that’s exactly what I want.

I also enjoy M/M romance mixed with mystery, especially books by Josh Lanyon. I particularly enjoyed Lanyon’s The Art of Murder series and the Secrets and Scrabble series. They’re quite different from one another: The Art of Murder leans more toward hard-boiled crime and suspense, while Secrets and Scrabble is firmly in cozy-mystery territory. Both give me the romance I enjoy along with a mystery to solve.

The first book I ever read by Josh Lanyon was The Darkling Thrush, and when I finished it, I had absolutely no intention of reading anything else by her. Quite frankly, I thought the book was awful. Susan eventually convinced me to give Lanyon another chance, and I’m very glad she did. I’ve since come to love many of her books and series. Trust me, The Darkling Thrush is an anomaly among Lanyon’s books, and I’m glad Susan talked me into giving her work a second chance.

There are several books by different authors that rank among my favorites, but Lanyon’s Winter Kill is easily in my top three. I rarely read a book more than once, but I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve reread Winter Kill. It has everything I enjoy—a romance, a mystery, and more than a little thriller thrown into the mix—and I absolutely love the two main characters. If you can have a crush on fictional characters, those two men would certainly qualify for me. Of all Lanyon’s books, Winter Kill is the one I’d most love to see made into a movie. I already have the whole thing pictured in my head; Hollywood just needs to get around to making it.


For much of my life, I read because I had to—for school, for teaching, for research, or because there was something I needed to learn. These days, I’m perfectly happy to read simply because a book is fun. Maybe that means a mystery, maybe a romance, or maybe some unapologetic gay fluff. A book doesn’t have to be profound to be worth the time spent reading it.

Of course, if I could spend the afternoon stretched out naked in the grass with a good book like the young man in the picture, that wouldn’t be such a bad way to read either.

So, what are you currently reading? And are you reading it because you have to—or simply because you want to?

Wednesday, August 12, 2026

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The Doldrums

I don’t have much of anything to write about this morning. I haven’t done anything particularly interesting lately, and I don’t have any future plans that might make for an interesting post either.

If the weather is nice on Saturday—and it’s supposed to be—maybe I’ll drive up to Lake Willoughby and go for a hike. The lake is a fjord-like glacial lake in Westmore, Vermont, framed by Mount Pisgah and Mount Hor. It’s an incredibly beautiful place, and I haven’t been up there in a while. We’ll see if I get energetic enough to actually make the trip.

Otherwise, there just hasn’t been much interesting going on lately. Work has been boring. Life has pretty much been boring. And, frankly, I’m just bored.

I wish I had a history post for y’all this week, but inspiration hasn’t struck, so I don’t have one planned. A history post isn’t something I can really force. I want y’all to find the topic interesting, and I don’t think I can make it interesting for anyone else if I don’t find it interesting myself.

So, sorry for the rambling and probably somewhat melancholic post this morning, but it’s all I’ve got for today. Maybe Saturday will bring a little scenery, fresh air, and inspiration. We’ll see.

Tuesday, August 11, 2026

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August Moonrise

August Moonrise

By Sara Teasdale

The sun was gone, and the moon was coming
Over the blue Connecticut hills;
The west was rosy, the east was flushed,
And over my head the swallows rushed
This way and that, with changeful wills.
I heard them twitter and watched them dart
Now together and now apart
Like dark petals blown from a tree;
The maples stamped against the west
Were black and stately and full of rest,
And the hazy orange moon grew up
And slowly changed to yellow gold
While the hills were darkened, fold on fold
To a deeper blue than a flower could hold.
Down the hill I went, and then
I forgot the ways of men,
For night-scents, heady, and damp and cool
Wakened ecstasy in me
On the brink of a shining pool.

O Beauty, out of many a cup
You have made me drunk and wild
Ever since I was a child,
But when have I been sure as now
That no bitterness can bend
And no sorrow wholly bow
One who loves you to the end?
And though I must give my breath
And my laughter all to death,
And my eyes through which joy came,
And my heart, a wavering flame;
If all must leave me and go back
Along a blind and fearful track
So that you can make anew,
Fusing with intenser fire,
Something nearer your desire;
If my soul must go alone
Through a cold infinity,
Or even if it vanish, too,
Beauty, I have worshipped you.

Let this single hour atone
For the theft of all of me.


About the Poem

There is something about an August evening that already seems to carry the faintest suggestion of an ending. Summer is still very much with us, but the days are growing shorter. Darkness comes a little earlier than it did only a few weeks before. There may still be hot afternoons ahead, but occasionally there is a coolness in the evening air that reminds us autumn is not so far away.

Sara Teasdale captures one of those evenings in “August Moonrise,” but what begins as a beautiful description of the natural world gradually becomes something much more profound. She watches the sun disappear, the moon rise over the hills, and swallows dart across the evening sky. The colors deepen from rosy pink to orange, gold, and finally a blue so intense that it is “deeper…than a flower could hold.”

For a moment, everything else disappears.

“Down the hill I went, and then / I forgot the ways of men,” she writes. I love that line. There are moments when we need to forget the ways of men for a little while. The world can be exhausting. People disappoint us. We disappoint ourselves. There are worries about tomorrow and regrets about yesterday. Sometimes we need an evening when the air is cool, the moon is rising, and the rest of the world can simply wait.

But Teasdale does not remain in that peaceful landscape. The beauty surrounding her makes her think about something much larger: the fact that she will eventually lose everything.

Her breath. Her laughter. Her sight. Her heart. Perhaps even her soul.

That sounds bleak, yet “August Moonrise” does not feel like a poem of despair. Teasdale knows that sorrow is unavoidable, but she refuses to believe that sorrow negates beauty. She writes:

“no bitterness can bend
And no sorrow wholly bow
One who loves you to the end”

There is tremendous hope in those words—not the hope that nothing bad will happen, but the knowledge that pain does not erase every beautiful thing that came before it.

We sometimes think happiness means reaching a place where nothing hurts anymore. Life rarely works that way. Joy and sorrow have an inconvenient habit of existing beside one another. We can grieve someone we have lost and still laugh at a memory of them. We can carry disappointment and still be stopped in our tracks by a beautiful sunset. We can have no idea what tomorrow will bring and still enjoy the moon rising tonight.

Perhaps that is enough.

Teasdale ends with two remarkable lines:

“Let this single hour atone
For the theft of all of me.”

Everything will eventually be taken from her, but she has had this hour. She has seen the moon rise. She has smelled the damp evening air. She has watched swallows crossing the sky. She has experienced beauty so completely that, for this moment at least, simply having been alive to witness it makes the eventual price of mortality seem worth paying.

We cannot hold on to an August evening forever. We cannot hold on to summer. We cannot hold on to youth, the people we love, or ultimately even life itself. Perhaps that is precisely why we should pay attention while they are here.

There will always be another worry waiting for us tomorrow. Tonight, perhaps, we can look up at the moon.

“August Moonrise” begins almost as a landscape painting. Teasdale establishes the scene through color and movement: blue Connecticut hills, a rosy western sky, darting swallows, black maples, an orange moon turning to gold, and hills deepening into blue.

Her imagery is unusually vivid, but it is not static. Everything is changing. The sun has already disappeared. The moon is rising. The swallows move unpredictably through the sky. Colors shift as daylight gives way to darkness. Even before Teasdale explicitly introduces mortality, she has created a world defined by transition.

The swallows are particularly effective. Teasdale compares them to “dark petals blown from a tree.” Petals are beautiful, but fallen petals also suggest impermanence. They have separated from the flower that produced them and are being carried away. The image quietly anticipates the poem’s later concern with everything that must eventually “leave me and go back.”

The poem’s major transition occurs with the lines:

“Down the hill I went, and then
I forgot the ways of men”

Until this point, the speaker has primarily been an observer. Now she enters into communion with the landscape. The “night-scents, heady, and damp and cool” awaken an almost ecstatic response. Beauty is no longer merely something she sees; it becomes something she experiences physically and spiritually.

Teasdale then directly addresses Beauty itself. By capitalizing the word, she transforms beauty from a quality into something approaching a divine presence. She has been “drunk and wild” on Beauty since childhood. The language resembles religious devotion, and by the poem’s end she explicitly declares, “Beauty, I have worshipped you.”

Yet her worship does not promise immortality. Teasdale entertains several possibilities for what follows death. Perhaps the individual is somehow remade into something new. Perhaps the soul continues alone through “a cold infinity.” Perhaps the soul itself simply vanishes.

She does not claim to know.

That uncertainty is important. The poem’s consolation does not depend upon certainty about an afterlife. Whatever awaits her—or does not await her—she knows that she has experienced beauty while she was alive.

This gives particular force to the final couplet. The “theft” is mortality itself: everything life gives us will eventually be reclaimed. Yet Teasdale asks that this one perfect hour of beauty “atone” for that loss.

It is an extraordinary exchange. One hour cannot literally compensate for death, of course. But poetry is not concerned with balancing an account. Teasdale is expressing the immense value of being fully present for even one moment of existence.

The poem therefore becomes less about death than about how to live in its presence. Mortality gives urgency to beauty. Because the moon will set, we should watch it rise. Because August will end, we should notice its evenings. Because our lives are finite, the moments when we truly see the world around us matter all the more.


About the Poet

Sara Teasdale was born in St. Louis, Missouri, in 1884 and became one of the most popular American lyric poets of the early twentieth century. Her poetry is known for its musical quality, emotional clarity, and frequent attention to love, beauty, nature, solitude, and mortality.

Her first collection, Sonnets to Duse and Other Poems, appeared in 1907, followed by Helen of Troy and Other Poems in 1911. Her 1917 collection Love Songs received major recognition, including what is now regarded as an early form of the Pulitzer Prize for poetry.

Although Teasdale’s poems often appear deceptively simple, their accessible language can conceal considerable emotional complexity. She frequently places moments of natural beauty beside loneliness, longing, loss, or an awareness of death. Rather than diminishing beauty, however, mortality often seems to intensify it. What is temporary becomes precious precisely because it cannot remain.

Teasdale died in New York City in 1933 at the age of forty-eight. Her poetry has endured in part because of her ability to express enormous emotions without elaborate language. She could take something as ordinary as watching the moon rise over distant hills and transform it into a meditation on beauty, sorrow, mortality, and what makes a life worth living.

In “August Moonrise,” she leaves us with a simple challenge: notice what is beautiful while it is still before us. Summer will end. The moon will set. Every perfect hour eventually passes.

But first, we get to experience it.


Monday, August 10, 2026

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A Slow Start to Monday

It’s Monday again, and I did not want to get out of bed this morning. I slept fine, or at least I seemed to have slept well. Isabella still got me up at her usual 4 a.m., but after I fed her, I went back to bed—and, surprisingly, back to sleep. I slept for another hour and a half, which is very unusual for me.

Even after that extra sleep, I still did not want to get out of bed. Part of it, I know, is the beginning of a migraine. I have a meeting this morning that I really don’t want to put off, so I’m going to get through that and reassess how I’m feeling afterward. Hopefully, the migraine won’t amount to much and the extra sleep this morning helped rather than simply delayed the inevitable.

It’s not the most auspicious start to my work week, but hopefully things will get better as the day goes along. Sometimes Mondays just require a little more effort to get moving.

Have a great week, everyone!