There is no question that gay people have been treated badly in our society, both in and out of the church. It is in response to this treatment that we find ourselves wanting to say to the rest of the world, "I'm not going to care what you think of me anymore! I'm going to live the way I want to live, and I'm going to have Pride in Myself!" This is often the response of the secular gay community.
Essentially, the secular gay community says, "Be yourself in all situations. Don't worry about how anyone else feels about it. If they're offended, too bad."
But as Christians, we are (as usual) called to something greater than this. We are God's abassadors to the world, and that means we must be willing to change and adapt ourselves to the different situations we find ourselves in. We must be willing to put aside our own freedoms -- although they are our freedoms -- in order to reach others with the love of God, whether those "others" are strict fundamentalists or party-loving secular gays.
As you read the following passage, notice how the issues Paul dealt with almost 2000 years ago are remarkably similar to the ones we deal with today as gay Christians.
1 Corinthians 9:19-23 (NASB)
For though I am free from all men, I have made myself a slave to all, so that I may win more. To the Jews I became as a Jew, so that I might win Jews; to those who are under the Law, as under the Law though not being myself under the Law, so that I might win those who are under the Law; to those who are without law, as without law, though not being without the law of God but under the law of Christ, so that I might win those who are without law. To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak; I have become all things to all men, so that I may by all means save some. I do all things for the sake of the gospel, so that I may become a fellow partaker of it.