Tuesday, December 30, 2025

In Memoriam, [Ring out, wild bells]


In Memoriam, [Ring out, wild bells]

by Alfred, Lord Tennyson


Ring out, wild bells, to the wild sky,
   The flying cloud, the frosty light:
   The year is dying in the night;
Ring out, wild bells, and let him die.


Ring out the old, ring in the new,
   Ring, happy bells, across the snow:
   The year is going, let him go;
Ring out the false, ring in the true.


Ring out the grief that saps the mind
   For those that here we see no more;
   Ring out the feud of rich and poor,
Ring in redress to all mankind.


Ring out a slowly dying cause,
   And ancient forms of party strife;
   Ring in the nobler modes of life,
With sweeter manners, purer laws.


Ring out the want, the care, the sin,
   The faithless coldness of the times;
   Ring out, ring out my mournful rhymes
But ring the fuller minstrel in.


Ring out false pride in place and blood,
   The civic slander and the spite;
   Ring in the love of truth and right,
Ring in the common love of good.


Ring out old shapes of foul disease;
   Ring out the narrowing lust of gold;
   Ring out the thousand wars of old,
Ring in the thousand years of peace.


Ring in the valiant man and free,
   The larger heart, the kindlier hand;
   Ring out the darkness of the land,
Ring in the Christ that is to be.


About the Poem


“Ring Out, Wild Bells” appears as Canto 106 in In Memoriam A.H.H., Alfred, Lord Tennyson’s long elegy written after the death of his close friend Arthur Henry Hallam. Though In Memoriam is rooted in private grief, this section widens its gaze outward, turning the passage of the year into a moral reckoning.


The poem imagines the ringing of New Year’s bells as an act of judgment and intention. The bells are not sentimental. They are commands. Tennyson calls on them to ring out falsehood, greed, violence, and despair—and to ring in truth, kindness, justice, and a more humane future.


What makes this poem endure is that it refuses to treat time as neutral. A new year does not simply arrive; it must be claimed.




Reflections on the Poem


Several stanzas feel almost unnervingly current, especially when read at the close of 2025.


In stanza 6, Tennyson urges us to:


Ring out false pride in place and blood,

  The civic slander and the spite;

  Ring in the love of truth and right,

Ring in the common love of good.


This is a direct challenge to systems that elevate wealth, lineage, or power over decency. It speaks to a year in which money has purchased influence, policy, and silence—where hateful politics have been funded, amplified, and normalized. It speaks to economies shaped by bad decisions, reckless tariffs, and inflation that squeeze ordinary people while the rich continue to profit.


In stanza 7, the poem grows sharper still:


  Ring out the lust of gold, the care

  Of self, the thousand wars of old;

Ring in the thousand years of peace.


It is difficult not to hear this as an indictment of a world driven by hoarding, domination, and perpetual conflict. In 2025, we have seen how greed erodes empathy—and how fear is weaponized to strip away rights. LGBTQ+ lives and voices have once again been treated as expendable. Speech is constrained under the guise of “protection,” whether through laws silencing queer discussion in classrooms or the creeping normalization of censorship in digital spaces.


And yet, this poem does not collapse into despair.


Tennyson does not ask us to deny reality. He asks us to name it—and then to imagine its opposite loudly enough that it becomes possible.


To read “Ring Out, Wild Bells” at the end of this year is to acknowledge grief, anger, exhaustion, and frustration—and still insist that they are not the final word. Even if meaningful change requires patience. Even if justice must wait for ballots cast and counted in November. The act of hope itself becomes resistance.



About the Poet


Alfred, Lord Tennyson (1809–1892) served as Poet Laureate of the United Kingdom for more than forty years, a role that placed him at the intersection of private emotion and public moral imagination. His poetry often wrestles with grief, doubt, faith, progress, and the ethical responsibilities of humanity in a changing world.


Tennyson lived what appears, by historical evidence, to be a conventionally heterosexual life. He married Emily Sellwood in 1850 and had two sons. There is no reliable documentation that he engaged in sexual relationships with men, and historians rightly avoid assigning him a modern sexual identity.


And yet, In Memoriam A.H.H.—written after the sudden death of his closest friend, Arthur Henry Hallam—stands as one of the most emotionally intimate poetic works in the English language. The poem is saturated with longing, devotion, bodily absence, and an ache that reshapes Tennyson’s understanding of love, faith, and even God. The depth of that attachment has invited generations of readers to recognize something essential: queer meaning is not limited to queer identity.


In the Victorian era, intense same-sex emotional bonds were expressed in ways that do not map neatly onto modern categories of sexuality. What In Memoriam demonstrates is that love between men—whether or not it was sexual—could be central, formative, and life-altering. The poem refuses to minimize that bond or explain it away. Instead, it treats male–male love as morally serious, spiritually significant, and worthy of public language.


For LGBTQ+ readers today, this matters deeply. In Memoriam reminds us that queer resonance often exists before the language to name it. It lives in grief that society cannot fully acknowledge, in devotion that exceeds acceptable boundaries, and in love that quietly insists on its own legitimacy. The poem makes space for readers who recognize themselves not because the poet shared their identity, but because he articulated truths about love and loss that transcend labels.


Tennyson’s work endures not because it offers easy answers, but because it allows human affection—especially between men—to be expansive, dignified, and real. In doing so, In Memoriam continues to ring with meaning for those whose loves have so often been denied language, history, or blessing.

Monday, December 29, 2025

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Dental Dread, With a Side of Ice


Tomorrow is not exactly shaping up to be my favorite day.

I have a root canal scheduled at 10 a.m., and I’ve been dreading it ever since it was put on the calendar. I know—modern dentistry, numbing, skilled professionals, all of that. I believe the reassurances. I still don’t like the idea.

As if that weren’t enough, we’re also under a Winter Weather Advisory and an Ice Storm Warning. The heaviest ice accumulation is expected between midnight and 10 a.m., which means I’ll be heading out right in the thick of it. Temperatures are supposed to drop quickly behind freezing, with gusty winds that could cause additional power outages into Tuesday. Honestly, I’m not thrilled about any part of that.

That said, I do have one small thing working in my favor: I’ve actually fallen asleep during a root canal before. Apparently, once I’m numb and reclined, my body just decides it’s nap time. So maybe that’s the plan tomorrow—carefully make it through the icy roads, close my eyes in the dentist’s chair, drift off, and wake up wondering when it’s all over. 😂

I’m hoping for a smooth procedure, minimal discomfort, safe travel, and maybe a well-earned afternoon of staying put afterward. If nothing else, I’ll remind myself that this is one of those days that’s unpleasant anticipating it, but usually manageable once you’re actually in it.

Here’s hoping tomorrow goes quickly—and quietly.

Wish me luck.


Update – 7:10 a.m.: My dentist appointment has been rescheduled due to the weather. The office will call me tomorrow to set a new date. I’m honestly very relieved that I don’t have to get out in this mess—driving in these conditions had me genuinely worried. Dental appointments can be difficult to reschedule, so we’ll see what happens next, but thankfully this root canal isn’t an emergency.


Sunday, December 28, 2025

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Looking Forward


See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
— Isaiah 43:19


There is something sacred about the space between years. It is a quiet doorway—one foot still planted in what has been, the other hovering over what has yet to take shape. The world often treats this moment as a demand for reinvention, but Scripture invites us instead to pay attention. As the psalmist prays in Psalm 90:12, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom,” reminding us that reflection itself is a holy act.

As LGBTQ+ people of faith, we know that endings and beginnings are rarely tidy. This year may have held moments of joy and affirmation—or seasons of grief, fatigue, and survival. It may have asked more of you than you ever expected. And yet, here you are. Still breathing. Still standing. Still deeply loved.

When the prophet Isaiah speaks of God doing “a new thing,” it is not spoken to people who are confident or comfortable. It is spoken to a community worn thin by exile and uncertainty. God does not dismiss their past or minimize their fear. Instead, God promises presence right where they are: a way in the wilderness, streams in the wasteland (Isaiah 43:19). Renewal does not require perfect conditions—only God’s faithfulness.

The turning of the year does not erase what came before. It gathers it. Every hard-won truth, every boundary learned, every scar earned through survival becomes part of the soil from which new life grows. In the aftermath of devastation, Lamentations 3:22–23 offers this quiet assurance: “The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning.” Newness, in Scripture, is not about forgetting—it is about being met again.

For many LGBTQ+ Christians, the arrival of a new year carries both hope and caution. We have learned that trust is not naive and that faith often carries memory with it. Still, the promise remains. Writing to a community living in uncertainty, Paul reminds them in Philippians 1:6 that “the one who began a good work among you will bring it to completion.” God is not finished with you—not at year’s end, and not at the beginning of what comes next.

And in the Gospel, we are given a final, steadying word—not a command, but a promise. At the close of Matthew’s Gospel, Jesus says simply, “I am with you always, to the end of the age” (Matthew 28:20). Not only in moments of clarity. Not only in seasons of confidence. But always—across thresholds, through uncertainty, and into whatever comes next.

So as this year closes, you are not asked to become someone else. You are invited to become more fully yourself—rooted in truth, shaped by grace, and steadied by the knowledge that you have never walked alone. As the next year opens, may you step forward gently, knowing that love has already gone ahead of you.

As this year fades into memory and a new one opens before you, may you carry forward what has shaped you and release what no longer gives life. May you trust that the love which sustained you this year does not disappear with the turning of the calendar. God is already present in what comes next—quietly, faithfully, and without condition. Wherever the new year leads, may you step into it knowing that you are held, you are seen, and you belong.

Saturday, December 27, 2025

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Moment of Zen: Home

Home at last. A delayed flight from Washington, DC had me walking in just before 3 a.m., but now I’m back where I belong—with Isabella, her morning wet food served, and the quiet comfort of home. A gentle Moment of Zen before I crawl back into bed. 😴🐾

Friday, December 26, 2025

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‘Twas the Day after Christmas


I seem to have survived Christmas in Alabama.

My niece gave me a “World’s Best Guncle” coffee mug—quietly, in private, so no one else saw. She didn’t say anything when she handed it to me, but I had the sense that my sister knew exactly what it was. My sister and brother-in-law fully include her partner in everything, so maybe my family is, slowly, getting better. Then again, who knows—since no one actually talks about it.

It was a somber Christmas in other ways. My great-uncle died early Christmas morning. He was 95, the last of my grandmama’s siblings—the last of that generation. I feel deeply for that branch of my family. His first wife, whom I never knew because she died before I was born, passed away two days before Christmas. His second wife died just a week after Christmas. Losing that generation makes the holidays feel different. They were the ones who held everyone together, the glue that kept us gathering year after year. Now, I rarely see those branches of the family anymore. In some ways, I wish I were staying a few extra days, just to be present with everyone who remains.

Mama’s health is also weighing heavily on me. Her dementia continues to worsen. She’s grown more frail, shuffles when she walks, has tremors, and becomes confused easily. There are still good moments—but when I woke her on Christmas Eve, she looked frightened and didn’t recognize me at first. That moment broke my heart in a way I’m not sure I can fully put into words.

I fly out today around 11 a.m. I won’t get into Burlington until close to midnight, which means—after waiting on baggage—I’ll be lucky to be home by 2 a.m. Two long layovers this year. I always try to keep it to one, but it never quite works out. There are no direct flights from Burlington to Montgomery, so travel days are always long days. Maybe one day I’ll marry a very wealthy man who can fly me straight to Montgomery on a private jet—but until then, this is just part of the deal.

What I’m most looking forward to is getting home to Isabella. I know she’s missed me. She’s been moping around the apartment while I’ve been gone, sleeping mostly in my spot on the bed instead of her usual place at the foot. She’s always incredibly chatty when I first get home, so I’m hoping she doesn’t wake the entire apartment complex loudly complaining about my disappearance while simultaneously being ecstatic that I’ve returned. Knowing her, it will be a bit of both.

For now, I’m grateful to have made it through the holidays, grateful for small signs of love and acceptance, and grateful that—after a very long day of travel—I’ll finally be home. Sometimes, that’s more than enough.